Psychology Kovalev Sergey Viktorovich. NLP

A man walks through a desert scorched by the sun and drags a whole heap of very heavy things: a huge weight, a metal chain, a millstone from a mill wheel, and on his back, in addition, a bag of sand. Why take sand with you to the desert? Obviously, it is as useless as all other equipment. The trouble is that a person does not remember when he placed this burden on his shoulders and why he drags it for so long. He had long ago become accustomed to this burden and stopped noticing it. Don't you recognize it? Sergei Viktorovich Kovalev (psychotherapist) believes that this person personifies any of us. It is we who walk for a long time along the winding roads of life and carry the weight of unnecessary problems in our minds.

Biography

Kovalev Sergey Viktorovich - psychotherapist. His biography is quite common and accessible to a wide circle of admirers of his gift. He was born on January 14, 1954.

The young man received a classical education at Moscow State University. Sergei Kovalev, a psychotherapist in the future, studied well, but due to the fact that he failed to successfully pass the state exam in scientific communism, he had to forget about receiving a honors diploma. After college, he quite often changed his field of activity: Krasnogorsk Mechanical Plant, Krasnogorsk City Komsomol Committee and even the Higher Komsomol School under the Komsomol Central Committee. The active search for a place in life at the Department of Sociology and Psychology of the Moscow Institute of Management has ended. This brought long-awaited relief to Kovalev, whose activities had not yet met his aspirations. This period was overshadowed by the fact that, unfortunately, Sergei Viktorovich was unable to reach mutual understanding with his colleagues. But it was at this time that his first book was published, which explored the psychology of family relationships.

More on public service I haven’t tried myself as a psychotherapist. Kovalev works a lot, still engages in intense physical activity, prefers martial arts, is interested in qigong exercises, esotericism, and practices meditation.

Sergei Viktorovich prefers not to mention his personal life unnecessarily and does not make it public. But it is known that this moment Kovalev is happy in family life: he and his wife raised a daughter, Elizabeth, born in 1979, who prefers to follow in her father’s footsteps. Currently, Sergei Kovalev is a fairly well-known psychotherapist, and he lives in his house in the Moscow region. In addition to his family, his house is home to his favorite pets - a dog and a cat.

Passion for NLP programming

Sergei Kovalev (psychotherapist) began to develop his passion since leaving the Moscow Institute of Management. Based on NLP, he created his own direction: the eastern version of neuroprogramming, in other words, the author’s method of consultation and psychotherapy.

He is the founder of the NLP technology center, which unites followers of this area and is used for advanced training and information exchange.

Achievements and regalia

Currently, video materials about NLP programming, the author of which is Sergey Kovalev (psychotherapist), have become widespread. All his books are in demand and are used as teaching aids. Sergey Viktorovich created the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League, was included in the World and European registers, and was certified as an NLP master trainer.

A little about books

It’s not for nothing that the conversation about Sergei Viktorovich began with a story about the desert. Exactly a man is walking By life path, carrying the burden of childhood problems, the uncertainty of youth and all the mistakes and problems that accumulated in the years of maturity. But at the same time he forgets about the main thing: the need to be happy and healthy, raising his children in the same way. Kovalev Sergei Viktorovich (psychotherapist) began writing books while in public service. At the moment, there are over 30 of his works, and many of them are intended for a trained readership. It is worth noting the most famous and accessible to readers who do not have special knowledge of psychology:

“Rely on the doctor, but don’t make a mistake yourself! Or self-healing programs without doctors and drugs.”
"Neuroprogramming of a successful destiny."
"Healing with NLP."
“How to live in order to live?”

The essence of NLP theory is that human thinking has the ability to contribute to the development of events according to its own scenario. To do this you need to know exact result what you want to achieve, assess and feel the situation as soberly as possible. Flexibility helps you adapt to all the events that happen around you without deviating from your goal.

Where are we from?

There are several books that every person simply needs to read in order to understand the degree of responsibility for all the deeds, thoughts and actions that parents commit in relation to their own children. Everything that has ever been said to a child, for example, statements about his appearance, abilities, the degree of guilt in certain events - all this becomes a big obstacle, sometimes a truly huge well in which the child’s best intentions can drown .

Instead of supporting the child in his movement forward and personal development, many parents chose precautionary tactics. After all, even small note can stop further attempts by the child to achieve his goal. It's about about Kovalev’s work under the eloquent title “We come from a terrible childhood. Or how to become the master of your past, present and future.”

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About this book

This book talks about how and with the help of what methods and psychotechnologies any person can find a happy destiny and program themselves for perfection and luck. The author of the book is a famous psychologist, psychotherapist of the highest qualifications, recognized both in Russia and throughout the world, one of the leaders of domestic and world neurolinguistic programming, the creator of a new and officially recognized direction of counseling and psychotherapy - the Eastern version of neuroprogramming, as well as the latest method of managing internal and external reality – neurotransformation.

The book presents extremely interesting material and provides a systematic description of many neuroprogramming psychotechnologies with extensive and accessible comments from the author.

The book is intended for specialists in the field of practical psychology, psychocorrection, psychotherapy, counseling and coaching, as well as for a wide range of readers who want to change themselves and their lives for the better.

Instead of a preface

K. Morley

Tell me, are you happy with your fate? How has your own life developed and is developing? By what you have already received from life, and by what you still hope to receive?

If so, please put this book on your shelf. It is not for you and not about you. After all, a person who is completely satisfied with everything that is and will be can only belong to one of two psychological types, namely: he is either a sage, or, excuse me, vice versa (according to Confucius, only the wisest do not change and do not strive for change and the most stupid ones).

In the first case, I simply have nothing to tell you, because everything that is described in this book, you have long understood, and not with your mind, but with your heart. And they became the true and sovereign master of their lives.

In the second case, it’s simply not worth talking about fate and its reprogramming - and not even because of the well-known saying about beads and those before whom they should not be thrown, but because of the uselessness and meaninglessness of this whole activity. Why talk about the possibilities of changing your life to a person who simply does not want to change it?

However, I hope that this is not the case. And you are one of the “silent majority” who are dissatisfied with their fate and are seriously thinking about changing it. If so, consider yourself lucky and you have found what you are looking for and what you want: a book that will allow you to get rid of the dictates of the not-so-successful fate programmed in your psyche and gain true freedom - the freedom to live the life you really want to live...

This opus is based on several very simple thoughts.

The fate of a person is a very real thing, having first and foremost psychological character.

It is written down not so much on some divine tablets, but in your own brain in the form of a set of programs of the unconscious part of the psyche.

Since all these “fateful” programs are unconscious formations, and therefore are not amenable to conscious management and control, we really cannot escape our own, but not always programmed, destiny.

And our life indeed turns out to be conditioned and predetermined - but in most cases not in the best way.

The only way to change this very “fateful predetermination” that we don’t like so much is to reprogram our own unconscious, that is, to change all those programs that determine the direction, course and course of our life.

Modern psychotechnologies, primarily and most of all based on neuroprogramming - a kind of forerunner of neuroscience of the third millennium - make it possible to carry out such self-reprogramming quickly, easily and relatively painlessly.

And all this is within your power. And you can do all this. If, of course, you want to. Tell me, do you really want this? If so, just turn the page—right now. And start your journey for new life and fate...

Main ideas and premises

The fountain of success must flow within ourselves; the one who is so ignorant of human nature that he seeks happiness by changing everything except himself will spend his life in fruitless efforts and will increase the troubles from which he seeks to get rid of.

S. Johnson

One day, a certain slave ran to his master in a panic and began to beg to be released to Samarra, one of the neighboring cities. To a reasonable question about the reason for such a rush, the frightened slave replied that he had recently met Death at the market, who looked at him meaningfully and threatened him with her finger. And that he wants to hide, hide, run away from her to Samarra, where, if he leaves today, he will be there tomorrow. The master took pity on the slave and gave him a horse so that he could ride away. And a little later, purely by chance, I met Death somewhere on the street hurrying about its business and found the courage to ask:

“Why did you scare my slave so much?”

- Scared? – Death was surprised. – I just reminded him that I’m waiting for him in Samarra tomorrow...

This and similar parables serve as an excellent illustration of the ancient truth: you cannot escape fate. Tell me, have you ever wondered why? After all, we humans seem to be endowed with free will. And we have every opportunity to build our life and destiny the way we want.

But for some reason, it often doesn’t work out the way you want (according to your needs). And it doesn’t even work out as well as it could (according to possibilities), which forces many to take to heart the common Marxist maxims about the omnipotence of circumstances, which, they say, do not allow us to live the way we would like. However, hand on heart, any of us, especially if at the same time he has to swear by something sacred, will agree with Andre Maurois, who once said that any person in just one day is given at least seven opportunities to change his life . And with Ilya Selvinsky, who bitterly complained that, supposedly, every life, whatever it is, is a world of missed opportunities...

However, in reality, over and over again we pass by a host of opportunities that could make our lives more effective and happy. And we begin to sincerely believe that it still exists - that same fate from which you cannot escape. But then the next one gets up, really interest Ask: where and how is it recorded? A question that secretly implies another: is it possible to rewrite your destiny? Let's try to understand these issues from a purely psychological (in the broad sense of the word) point of view.

Once upon a time I came across a phrase that literally sunk into my soul and, apparently, became one of the reasons for the appearance of this book (what a pity that I don’t remember it - the phrase - the author):

You can't escape fate. Because your destiny is in yourself. And you can’t escape yourself...

I was eighteen, and I was then studying at the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University. And I was interested in everything that could help me take place - that is, to make my destiny worthy of that extraordinary representative of the biological species Homo Sapiens, which I considered myself then (and still consider myself - but with justification).

I remember well how I rushed for an answer to the question of what in myself (I was practically not interested in the rest at that time) determines my own life and fate. First, to the teachers, who, after listening to my inspired speech, quickly extinguished my ardor, informing me that in materialist psychology the question of the determination of human behavior and activity is considered from the point of view of the concept of social conditioning, revealed in the works of the classics of Marxism-Leninism, and fate as such - the concept is idealistic and therefore not seriously considered. And then - to books, the content of which went far beyond the academic course of psychological disciplines (for example, it was then that I learned about “essentially bourgeois” transpersonal psychology, which recognized and proved the possibility of the existence of human consciousness outside its material carrier – the brain). However, I did not find the answer at that time. And, disappointed, he tried to forget the question itself, for which he gladly plunged into the element of student freedom. And two decades later, having experienced downs, ups, shame, glory, poverty, and prosperity during this time, and somehow reflecting on my life according to the mood, I suddenly realized that it had turned out exactly as I expected. It had to happen, albeit perhaps not in the most successful way, that through the seeming chaos of events and circumstances of past life, some leitmotif of my own destiny runs like a red thread. It was as if someone or something, despite external obstacles and my internal resistance, was persistently pushing me in the right direction, moving me towards some mysterious goals and meanings. Despite everything and even without particularly paying attention to my own desires. So, “sliding and falling and rising again” (Maeterlinck), taking three steps forward and only two back (although I could have taken four), I still walked towards something destined for me, and only me. Along the road prepared only for me. And then I returned again to the question of what psychological mechanisms determines the life and destiny of a person, and even seems to have found the answer, or, more precisely, answers. And he created the Eastern version of neuroprogramming (EVN) - a science that allows you to take the reins of control of your life and destiny into your own own hands.

I will now try to outline some of the most important provisions of this very BBN, which are necessary for you to understand this book and successfully program your new destiny. Don’t worry – there won’t be many of these provisions, but all of them are very interesting.

Let’s start, as it should be, “from the stove,” which will be the following very simple and, in my opinion, almost indisputable position. That the main sign of a successful destiny should be, of course, success. But the main criterion for this (success) in all centuries and times was, is and, it seems, will be human well-being as achieving a satisfactory (again, personally for him) standard of living. That’s right: satisfying, because, as you know, for some the caviar is not salty, and for others the porridge is not sweet.

Just don’t need your platitudes here like sex, power, status and money (or the so-called “three Ts”: “rags, cars, chicks” - in general, sheer “consumerism”...): something, but this goodness My ordinary clients (and as a world-class psychotherapist I charge very, very dearly for my services, so my clients are mostly rich...) are more than enough. But then this gentleman, packed from head to toe, arrives in a Brabus Mercedes, and after ten minutes of work, having lost all his usual arrogance, he begins to sadly tell how unhappy he is internally - despite all his undoubted external well-being.

So, a long time ago (but in this Galaxy), the Eastern version of neuroprogramming, and then neurotransformation, was based on the following basic definition:

Well-being = Efficiency + Happiness

What is so simple and precise that you don’t even want to argue? Of course - after all, if you think carefully about this formula from the point of view of the criterion as a sufficient and necessary condition, it turns out even more interesting. After all, efficiency (in business, money, relationships, etc.) then becomes only a necessary condition for this very well-being. But happiness is a sufficient condition (well, very sufficient...).

Let's go further, however, since I deliberately reduced the volume of this fragment - taking into account the fact that the population of our country is rapidly losing the ability to read fairly long (and smart!) texts. So, if we analyze human well-being into its components, it turns out that there are only five of them - basic and fundamental - which is why in the Eastern version of neuroprogramming there is the so-called "star of well-being" .

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In this star, everything, it seems to me, is clear without words - with the exception of only health, which has to be (everything else is possible, but not necessarily necessary, but this has to be) divided into:

Spiritual (a sense of correctness and necessity of one’s own life)

Psychological (when this very life “does not shake”) and

Physical (when the indicated part of health simply does not bother you).

And one more thing that you should remember as the “Our Father”: that human well-being is a complex phenomenon, and if you are prosperous in one area (and also prosperous, but only in one), but not very prosperous in others, you are not prosperous generally!!!

And my same clients - businessmen and even oligarchs, very, very prosperous in the field of money, complain in unison about “bastard” work (“from morning to evening, like a squirrel in a wheel!”), lost health (spiritual - because “there is no point in living ”, psychological - since there is only anxiety and depression, and physical - because, despite super-paid doctors (or grabbers?), “the body is “dead” right before our eyes”), completely ruined relationships (“all around enemies and bastards”), unsatisfying sex (“no, I can do it with Viagra, but still no buzz”) and almost completely absent love (“What are you talking about? Yes, they all want only one thing from me - my money! ").

Now let’s figure out where this very human well-being “lives”. What, do you really still think that's out there? Well, I just feel sorry for you! Have you really not bothered to understand, at least in all your years, the principle “from the inside - out”, according to which everything that was created by a person in this world was first created inside him (in the form, for example, of an idea, a scheme and/or drawing) and only then - outside (in the form, for example, of a product or sample). And which in the Eastern version of neuroprogramming and neurotransforming was completely different, but in essence seems to be implemented in the so-called "law of incarnation" .

According to this law, you only have in your life what you already have in your own head. For example, if you don’t have an idea for a computer in your head, you not only won’t buy it, but you simply won’t recognize it when you meet, in best case scenario you will mistake it for some strange model of TV (and then only if this same TV is present in your head). And if so, then well-being as such always comes from the inside out and lives not outside, but inside you - in the form of perfection and luck. And from the point of view of psychology, it is described by the following formula created in the Eastern version of neuroprogramming and neurotransforming:

Prosperity = Perfection Luck

That's right - multiply. And when, purely by chance, but in a very pleasant place - in one of the best (I won’t say which) hotels in Sharm El-Sheikh - this formula “illuminated” me, I literally did not sleep all night, finally understanding what had happened and it happens: to me, to others and to the country.

So that it dawns on you too, let's start with the last one - with the country, or rather, countries. So, if we accept (for now) that a person’s perfection is a certain function of his education and abilities, and luck is directly realized in the ability to achieve goals with a minimum of effort(let’s take these definitions as working) and that both the first and second can be assessed on a ten-point scale (min = 0; max = 10), then when comparing two such constantly competing countries as Russia and America (USA), in which the latter clearly wins , you get the following.

Russia was initially (now, alas, this is no longer the case) a very perfect country (remember about the most reading nation in the world, our universal average and widespread higher education and other things that we inherited from the stagnant, but, in some aspects, very good USSR). And even though now we can no longer give it a solid “ten” for this perfection (if people read now, they only read signs and annotations about what they buy, but about a decent education in the conditions of the Unified State Examination, coursework and diplomas downloaded from the Internet, and Also, the results of tests and exams are quite easily bought up on the vine, needless to say), there is still some groundwork and we still deserve seven points.

However, we are a surprisingly unlucky country, and this unluckiness did not come at all with the Bolsheviks or the new Russians (although it was still aggravated by them), but was initially inherent in the long-suffering Russian Empire. After a while you will understand why this is so, but for now I can only complain that no - well, no, that's all - I have room to give truly egregious, fantastic in stupidity and absurdity examples of this failure (or maybe , is this good?). So by luck we deserve no more than one point, which results in the following:

Well-being of Russia = 7 1 = 7%

(I remind you that 10 10 gives 100% well-being).

Unlike us, the United States does not at all shine with any kind of perfection (which is worth the mere fact that Americans study fractions almost in the highest grades), and if they stay in the mainstream and at the core of scientific and technological progress, it is only because account of migrants (from the same Russia, China and India). As a result, in terms of perfection, it can be given no more than a “four” (let me remind you: on a ten-point system). However, this annoying, rather stupid and yet very attractive country for many is simply fantastically lucky - ten points! Which results in the following:

US prosperity = 4 10 = 40%.

Well, is it clear now? It is clear that, as with efficiency and happiness, perfection is at best necessary condition well-being, whereas luck is a sufficient condition? It is clear that if we are not talking about countries, but about those same aforementioned others, it is precisely because of the dispersion, as mathematicians say, between perfection and luck that highly educated, honorably carrying spiritual traditions are so disadvantaged, but completely unlucky old Russians are so prosperous The new Russians, who are nothing but very successful?

And if, so to speak, to get personal (more precisely, to myself as an individual), you understand that if I personally had not previously shone with prosperity and only in last years Having corrected my own psychological situation, I literally flew into health and satisfying relationships like a rocket, beautiful love and harmonious sex, as well as an absolutely satisfying job, which also began to bring in very decent money, then all this happened precisely as a result of the gap between my abilities and education, high and absolutely recognized by everyone, and luck, which is still ten years back was quite low?

It remains to add that it is in connection with all of the above that I defined the Eastern version of neuroprogramming as the science of human well-being efficiency and happiness resulting from perfection and luck - which is given and created by the dynamics and structure of human experience.

Let's look at perfection and luck, as they say even within the walls State Duma, “in kind and specifically.” Actually, if you carefully read the previous text, you probably already realized that perfection is that very dynamic aspect of human experience, based entirely on life programs. So, for example, you, trying to be more perfect, and therefore more effective (and therefore prosperous), spend a lot of effort on acquiring additional programs such as computer work, English or the notorious MBA. However, all these programs are built on the unshakable foundation of your reality maps, which first determine your luck, and then your happiness. And if a card is initially bad, the program built on it will never be good.

Perhaps it’s time to explain what these are – reality maps. Imagine two twins who, having barely learned to walk, decided to get acquainted with such a “fragment of reality” as dogs. Since this was really their first acquaintance, neither of them had any cards regarding the said animals. Due to some circumstances, they went to get acquainted with the dogs (more precisely, with that glorious representative of them who lived in the yard) at different times. And the first twin spanked her when this dog was in deep euphoria about what she had just eaten hearty lunch, so she willingly exposed her pink belly and even just allowed her to play with her. As a result, in the “dog” section of this twin’s charts, “cute, kind, affectionate and fluffy” were almost forever written down.

The second baby was unlucky - he approached the dog at the moment when she was either gnawing on a particularly tasty bone, or was simply dissatisfied with something, which is why she growled, or even barked at the child and even tried to bite him. As a result, in his card system, in the “dogs” section, the entry “scary, angry, growling and biting” appeared (again, almost forever!).

Kovalev Sergey Viktorovich - psychologist, psychotherapist, doctor psychological sciences, Professor. Psychotherapist of the World and European Registers, certified NLP Master Trainer and specialist in Ericksonian hypnotherapy. President of the interregional department of neurolinguistic programming. CEO Institute of Innovative Psychotechnologies.

We can only survive if we radically change our worldview. We must have unique centers of power. Mental, mental strength that will set a different picture of the world. Optimistic, joyful, unselfish, moral, spiritual.

Is there another reality? Yes, and this fact has long been recognized by physical science. There is Einstein's colleague D. Bohm, who tried to explain why the canons of quantum mechanics are incompatible with the law of classical physics. As a result of his investigations, he mathematically revealed the existence of two types of reality. Unmanifested quantum and manifested physical.

The reality that is described by quantum physics is precisely the one in which the probabilities of what can happen in physical reality are presented. And it is precisely this that, to some extent, can be called magical. And our secondary reality is a kind of projection of the primary reality, in which everything that happens later begins...

- Can a person influence reality, change the existing picture of the world?

The relationship between the two realities is similar to the relationship between water and ice. Quantum reality is water from which you can get anything you want. When it, let’s say, freezes, it turns into our reality, into specific events.

It follows from this that a person has a fairly large potential for volitional influence on the world. Because, in fact, quantum reality is the reality of probability. Depending on our own thoughts, we are, in general, able to activate any version of events. Unfortunately, most people have a “catastrophic” mindset instead of the so-called anastrophic one.

That is, they think that something bad will happen. And it happens. Therefore, the advice is simple: if you want to create something acceptable for yourself, simply change the content of your consciousness. From negative to positive . Because what is in it will be embodied in your life...

- Your profession is in great demand in our age. I would like to know your opinion, why is this trend happening? Why now, and not, say, a hundred years ago?

For one simple reason. Because now we have created an artificial environment around us, which the capabilities of our logical consciousness cannot cope with. There is such a concept of “bounded rationality”, once proposed by the laureate Nobel Prize G. Simon.

According to him, both individuals and entire organizations are unable to cope with problems that exceed a certain level. No one is able to even simply understand what is happening around them anymore. So, we have all exceeded this level long ago.

If the amount of information that humanity had for the year of Christ’s birth is taken as one, then already at the beginning of the last century (last century - 1900!) we had one hundred and twenty-eight units. Accordingly, now this number has reached unimaginable values. People are no longer able to understand the complexity of this world. As a result, consciousness is deformed, and the person either degrades or, as it were, goes crazy. And, accordingly, needs the help of specialists.

However, in reality, everything is not so hopeless. Because each of us has a Great Unconscious, which can completely calmly cope with any amount of information.

That is, we could potentially cover all of this. But humanity has taken the wrong road. It turned from the intuitive path of development to the conscious one. By inventing consciousness (co-knowledge) as a tool for interaction and, in general, influence on others. This is not enough to understand the World. And the psyche fails, the number grows mental illness. Moreover, it is growing so much that they prefer not to disclose these statistics.

Because she's just killer. For example, even in the most prosperous countries the number of depressants increases every year. Although, it would seem, what kind of depression could a wealthy American housewife have? The number of reactive psychoses, pathological deviations, and so on is increasing. Roughly speaking, we failed to meet the adaptation challenge that we threw at ourselves.

If we adhere to the theory of Academician Severtsev, who postulated the existence of four types of adaptation - degradation, intensification, specialization and development - it turns out that now, unfortunately, we are heading towards degradation.

The era of postmodernism is characterized by the emergence of highly specialized knowledge. And even specialists engaged in the same science do not understand each other. Because they really only understand their narrow field. What then can we say about humanity as a whole?

As a result, there is a crazy trend towards simplifying everything. For example, replacing psychology with all sorts of nonsense like horoscopes. Because looking at a horoscope is easier than doing a serious test. And so on. I have already spoken about this many times and written many times. That until humanity understands that something needs to be done here, nothing good will happen in this world.

At one time, Stanislav Lem, who was not only a famous science fiction writer and futurologist, in his book “The Sum of Technologies” suggested that humanity, due to the fact that natural abilities are not developing in it, will be forced to follow the path of cybernization. That is, introducing computer implants directly into your brain in order to navigate reality...

- How do you look at the evolution of egoism? Is it an engine of progress or a barrier to the well-being and mutual understanding of people?

Selfishness is not the engine of progress. Selfishness is the destroyer of progress. The curse of humanity.

Carl Gustav Jung also postulated the following. In order to truly understand something, you need to go through four levels of worldview.

First: you need to feel it with all your senses.

Second: logically comprehend, create a model.

Third: accept, feel, relate to it with emotions and feelings.

But there is also a function that, as it were, closes the process of cognition. She is extremely important. This function is intuitive.

That is, the fourth level is an intuitive embrace of something.

This is the only way to really know something.So, these are actually four stages and four levels of life activity.

If you really want to fully understand this life, you must first feel it, then comprehend it, then emotionally accept it, and then, as it were, “intuit” it, thereby completing the life cycle. Understanding who you are, what you are and why.

But this will not happen, because at present the development of reality analysis has stopped only at the first two stages. Only a few move to the third and fourth stages. That is, we have neither emotional acceptance nor intuitive awareness of the world. We live in a primitive world where, at the level of sensual pleasures and banal logic, “money conquers evil.” Which means, in essence, we simply don’t live...

In order to understand why you live, you need to understand your life at other levels of existence. First at the sensory-emotional level. And then - on the intuitive. But the first requires morality, and the second requires spirituality. And selfishness is the tool that will never allow you to ascend to Heaven. On the contrary, it will make you crawl on the ground forever. Because it is highly specialized and, at best, focused on a narrow circle of “insiders”. To the primitive rules of “their brethren.”

Conscience in the egoistic version is a tool that makes it possible not to fall out of this circle. The main principle of this primitive conscience is: “I shouldn’t do this, because otherwise I will be thrown out.”

At the second level, when things get serious business game, at least some morality appears. Because meeting its standards can be simply beneficial. But in order to truly understand this world, morality of the third level and spirituality of the fourth level are necessary. If this does not happen, nothing will come of your life...

- Consequently, I draw the following conclusion for myself: if a person, trying to change the world around him, does not see a positive result, should he change himself?

This, you know, is the most common conclusion. As one of the greats said: "Yesterday I was smart and tried to change the world, today I have become wise and am trying to change only myself" . Naturally, you only have to start with yourself. The Chinese also said: if you want to change something in your country, change something in your county, if you want to change something in your county, change it in your area, if you want to change it in your area, change it in your city, and so on - until tidying up your desk...

- What role do you assign to your environment in the emergence of problems and in solving them?

There are, as it were, two human lives. The first is social. It is dedicated to socialization and working for society. The second life is existential, personal. It involves working for yourself, unlocking your own potential. The first life dictates to sow what is reasonable, good and eternal, but not for oneself, but for others.

But this is not your life, because you live for the sake of society. In fact, the important thing here is not just to do something for others, but to learn something, understand something. Everyone has their own "hero's journey" that they must complete...

But not many people approach this. To your true life, not someone else's. Which, by the way, should start somewhere around the age of forty-two. The critical age when a person understands that he cannot live like everyone else and for everyone. He needs to be someone for himself. And then he begins to look for his calling and mission. The meaning of your life. And he’s trying to make it all happen. Having realized yourself in this world.

But often, such desires are simply suppressed in us. Our environment, or more precisely, our interaction with it. Where we are mired in complete selfishness. We have forgotten how to negotiate, but we have learned to be cunning and cunning. They have lost their moral guidelines, not to mention spirituality. Because morality requires intelligence. And due to the complexity of the world, intelligence is lost. And morality falls victim to falling intelligence.

Purely semantically, “egoism” is a derivative of the word “ego”. But ego is the lowest authority of human behavior, the lot of the Sharikovs and Shvonders. Imagine living in a world where these characters run the show. So your ego is your Shvonder.

It is constantly, as Freud correctly wrote, between two things: instinctive drive and social control . But this is only the first level of existence. And human development is a process of transition from level to level. From ego to personality, from personality to individuality. And from individuality to authentic personality.

Here the mask (our Russian name) is a system of human-acquired social roles. The title is slightly cartoonish, but accurate. It presupposes the formation of a kind of human citizen, strictly, while being watched and supervised, fulfilling social rules. But living by rules alone will not make you a real person.

Therefore, a transition to individuality is necessary - this is the third level of being. And the fourth level is already the area of life activity of a genuine personality, on the scale of Alexander Isaevich Solzhenitsyn. A man who went through all the circles of hell, just to describe them. And to prevent recurrence...

Remaining at the first level of personal development, we will come to serious world problems. Therefore, the forecasts here are not encouraging. In the near future, starting in 2050, we will have problems with water. Wars will begin for pure H2O. And a little later - wars for food. Because there is already not enough food. It will only get worse...

- The forecasts are really not encouraging...

Why should they be comforting? Because of so-called progress? He didn't make anyone happy! Please note that now every person has more than a medieval king. The then monarch, despite all his gold, jewelry, concubines, etc., did not have the Internet, tablet, or mobile phone. There wasn't even a warm toilet. And what?

Did purchasing all this make us happy? In fact, it's the opposite, unfortunately. For example, in the United States of America, against the backdrop of a steady increase in well-being, life satisfaction is continuously falling! We hoped that the 21st century would be the century of the triumph of justice.

Now we have found out an amazing thing - it seems to have become a century of total degradation of humanity. Look, in which area is degradation not occurring now? Absolutely everything has been disrupted. Lost general philosophy world development. Stability political situation. Sustainable functioning of the economy. Cultural and socio-psychological norms are violated. We have religious wars going on everywhere. We have become intolerant, we do not understand each other.

Some philosophers said that the main feature of this crisis is that it is total. This is a crisis of a basic worldview that is simply outdated and, unfortunately, we are not working to create a worldview that would allow us to overcome this crisis.

Pay attention, for example, to our country, which, in fact, does not even have a national idea. It has been created for the last twenty years, but it has not been created. Unable to bear it, I developed my own model of the national idea and released it on the Internet.

And what? Everyone nodded and rejoiced... And that’s all. Do you think that none of the authorities saw her? They probably saw it, but why would she if national idea became the principle “money conquers evil.” The idea of plundering everything possible.

So what do you want then? What progress? Progress, if you want to know, has arrived, as most serious scientists believe. Now neither planes fly faster nor cars drive better. The only progress is observed only in computer electronics, where we can easily come to the spontaneous emergence of a new Mind. On the Internet, where each individual computer will become like a neuron...

Who told you that progress is mandatory? There is always a cyclical nature in the development of civilizations. We had Ancient Greece, which reached its peak and... How did ancient Greece end? Disappeared. We had Ancient Rome, who also disappeared. Don't you think that we are just repeating these stories?

A well-known joke from the “Armenian” radio quite accurately conveys the meaning of what is happening. They were asked: “When will it get better?” “It was already better,” answered “Armenian” radio.

I would really like to be an optimist. But, as you know, a pessimist is a well-informed optimist. However, I'm more of a realist. In that certain sense - what an optimist teaches English language, the pessimist is Chinese, and the realist is the material part of the Kalashnikov assault rifle.

- What task do you now set for yourself and for people?

Our main task is to correctly build a completely different worldview regarding ourselves, others, the world and God. Because in that worldview, in the model of the world that we created, we have reached a dead end, into the meaninglessness of everything and everyone...

You asked about depression. I am not going to talk about the theories of this phenomenon, which I know very well as a doctor of psychological sciences. However, I cannot help but say the following.

When Harvard scientists conducted research into why we have such a low life expectancy, they were amazed to find out that we are not dying out because we drink and smoke. There are countries where they drink and smoke much more. It turned out that we were dying from melancholy and lack of meaning in life. I repeat: from melancholy and lack of meaning in life! And this mortality is like a kind of protest and migration: I can’t live here, I’ll leave here... This prospect is not encouraging.

At the same time, I am still an optimist. Because I adhere to the point of view of Marcus Aurelius that wherever you can live, you can live well. Even now.

It was said not by us, but by the great: “Because iniquity increases, the love of many will grow cold; but he who endures to the end will be saved” (Matthew 24:12-13 ed.). However, this salvation is not now connected with senseless protests in squares and streets. Unfortunately, those who take to the squares do not bring any new ideology. They have no other worldview. They don't bring anything new at all. This is an attempt at a standard change of power using non-standard methods.

We can only survive if we radically change our worldview. We must have unique centers of power. Mental, mental strength that will set a different picture of the world. Optimistic, joyful, unselfish, moral, spiritual. If we can do this, we will save this entire world using the well-known “hundredth monkey” effect.

There was an experiment that consisted of placing monkeys on the islands of a small archipelago and throwing them peeled bananas. At first the monkeys ate them with sand. Then one monkey decided to bathe the banana in water. The second, third followed her example... And when a hundred monkeys thought of this, all the monkeys around the archipelago began to wash bananas in water! The accumulation effect worked. Through the very morphic field that connects us, about which Rupert Sheldrake wrote in such detail.

If this happens, we can still rise. But transformation will only happen if we change reality, change consciousness . As much as possible? I do what I can. I explain to people how you can not survive, but live even in this crazy world.

I created a special integrative system of psychotherapy - the so-called integral neuroprogramming, which allows you to solve any psychological and physical problems of a person. And not only to decide, but also to bring him to the level when he begins to think about the high and moral. Begins to comprehend life. And live with taste, and not survive. And I teach this science to everyone. Hiding nothing and explaining everything.

- Such interviews, if viewed as educational, can be thrown into the treasury of virtues...

This is not a virtue, because it is difficult to call it a virtue if you simply live according to your conscience. The one that corresponds to true morality and morality. This is how a person should live. It’s just that people have already forgotten what it is: to live according to conscience . They were helped to forget it. Because people who live according to their conscience cannot allow all the outrages that are happening now. It is better for those in power in this world to have unscrupulous subordinates. They are easy to buy. It is difficult, even impossible, to buy those who live according to their conscience...

And the conscience that I have is connected with the fact that I have risen in the standard of living. I look at this world a little differently. At the first, second level you look at eternity from the point of view of the world. Eternity seems small, but the world is very big. And I have been looking at this world from eternity for a long time. And I understand well that it is small and finite. And eternity is endless and boundless... published

Kovalev Sergey Viktorovich

A surge of interest in psychology as a purely practical science emerged in the early 2000s. At this time, psychology came out of the offices of scientists “to the people,” and psychologists began to enjoy popularity as healers of human souls, capable of helping real help. The concept of “practical psychology” appeared.

One of its brightest representatives is psychologist Sergei Viktorovich Kovalev, who, having developed active work at the turn of the 90s and early 2000s, continues to work successfully today, healing the wounds of human souls.

Everyone can become happy.
Kovalev Sergey Viktorovich, psychologist

Biography

Sergei Viktorovich was born in 1954, on January 14. He studied well, strived for knowledge, and after school he entered Moscow State University. There he completed a full course of study at the Faculty of Sociology and Psychology. The talented student was “threatened” with a honors diploma, but Marxism-Leninism ruined the whole thing: he failed to get an “A” in this subject.

After studying, psychologist Sergei Viktorovich Kovalev managed to work in several places, including such unexpected places for a specialist in his profile as the Krasnogorsk Mechanical Plant. By the time changes are planned in the country, Kovalev is already a formed psychologist and has managed to take his destiny into his own hands: he opened a cooperative, leaving a stable but unpromising job, and wrote several works. The books dealt mainly with family relationships.

Subsequently, he became interested in neurolinguistic programming (abbreviated as NLP) and developed the Eastern version of this direction in psychology. For reference: NLP is a method of influencing individuals, which includes behavior modeling and mind control.

Note! For those who master this technique, it becomes possible to program thinking - not only their own, but also the thinking of their opponent.

Sergei Viktorovich took part in the work of the World University for the Development of Science. As he himself notes, he did this in order to bring together, as far as possible, the educational programs adopted in Russia and throughout the world. In other words, in this way he indirectly contributed to the development of uniform training standards.

Today, the scientist lives in the Moscow region, where he continues to work in the field he chose in his youth, and also improves his body by practicing martial arts and qigong. With a noticeable amount of self-irony, Kovalev notes that he somehow managed to become a member of a large number of all kinds of societies, sometimes without understanding why, such as the Guild of Automotive Journalists. He is married, has adult daughter. Favorite members are dog and cat.

Current activity

Sergei Kovalev has many regalia and titles. Let's list at least part of it:

Doctor of Psychology;
Professor;
President of the Interregional Branch of the Institute of Neurolinguistic Programming;
Certified NLP Master Trainer;
General Director of the Institute of Innovative Psychotechnologies;
scientific director of the Center for Practical Psychology.

The main direction of activity today is conducting trainings and seminars in Moscow, the Moscow region and Rostov-on-Don. Being a professional coach and political consultant, Kovalev conducts training courses and provides assistance to anyone who has difficulties with career guidance.

On Youtube you can find collections of videos where the psychologist gives advice and recommendations completely free of charge to those who want to walk their life path with meaning and dignity.

In 2009–2010 Kovalev hosted a radio program on the Russian News Service “About Us. Psychology of the Hidden." Many recognized themselves in the heroes and learned methods of overcoming failures and learning from mistakes.

You can take a look at Sergei Viktorovich’s website - there will also be a lot of interesting things there for those eager to gain new knowledge.

He also continues to write books. To date, he has authored 36 publications.

Books

If the first works were devoted to family psychology, then later the author was fascinated by the themes of self-knowledge, the search for meaning, the search for opportunities to make life bright, rich and reveal the spiritual potential hidden in every person.

The easiest for an unprepared reader are:

“Rely on the doctor, but don’t make a mistake yourself”;
“Healing with NLP”;
« Neuroprogramming of a successful destiny."

This block is intended to convince the reader: many diseases are caused by psychosomatics, and therefore, almost resistant to treatment with traditional drugs, they give in with targeted and persistent “spiritual” work on them.

An indisputable fact: with the help of psychological techniques and changing our way of thinking, we are able to cope even with long-standing or almost incurable ailments!

In the first decade of the new millennium, 2006–2008, a cycle of 3 works by Kovalev was published, dedicated to the Eastern version of NLP that he developed. In his books, the psychologist shares techniques that give us the opportunity to know ourselves and better understand our own goals and aspirations. In addition, the veil of secrecy over “other people's souls” is lifted. It becomes easier to understand your colleagues, partners and family.

Lectures

Seminars and lectures take up a lot of work scientific supervisor Center for Practical Psychology. Leading by example is, without a doubt, the most persuasive way to teach. And if the material is also supported by the unconditional charisma of the lecturer, then success is guaranteed.

Here are the topics of Sergei Kovalev’s courses and seminars:

“Crises that we experience” (about personal crises at different stages of life’s journey);
“Secrets of effective communication” (useful for everyone, especially businessmen and managers);
"Why don't we achieve what we want" (about typical mistakes"a person who dreams");
"Reality Management"

Those who have been trained using Kovalev’s methods assure: in fact, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Even if you have lost your life guidelines and the meaning of your own existence, with the help of a revolution in thinking carried out under the guidance experienced psychologist, you will definitely return it. The main thing is to have a strong desire.

Let's work on ourselves?

“The soul must work” - we all know. But how and for what?

Psychologist Sergei Viktorovich Kovalev found the answer to these questions a long time ago. If you follow him along the darkened corridors of your own consciousness, you will be able to free yourself from the oppressive, meaningless burden of the past, find a new you and transform your life from a gray existence filled with constant bustle and never-ending work, into a bright and colorful one, full of emotions, desires and goals holiday.

These will be goals that will definitely come true, because now you will become the master of your destiny, and not a timid guest who accidentally looked into this world.

He was born quite a long time ago, but as a person who plans to live happily ever after (due to the neuroprogramming of his own Consciousness and Body), he has already changed his date of birth twice.

He successfully graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at Moscow State University (although he lost his honors diploma due to a “B” in the exam on scientific communism). Having changed several rather exotic places of work (such as the Krasnogorsk Mechanical Plant, the Krasnogorsk Komsomol State Committee and even the Higher Commissariat of Staff under the Komsomol Central Committee), I was relieved to get a job at the Department of Sociology and Psychology at the Moscow Institute of Management. And in vain, since it turned out that this is another office that fully and completely meets the principle of “a flock of comrades” and “a terrarium of like-minded people.” Out of grief, he wrote and published his first books on psychology modern family. Unable to withstand the terror of his fellow cathedral members, he fled to free bread, opening one of the first cooperatives in Russia. He never returned to the civil service, but managed to fall deeply in love with NLP, and while in this still ongoing state of love, he also defended himself, and at the same time created his own scientific direction: the Eastern version of neuroprogramming (the author’s method of counseling and psychotherapy). He opened his own Center for NLP Technologies in order to move neurolinguistic programming not only forward, but also to the masses.

I joined the work of the World University for the Development of Science, Education and Society (WUDSES) in order to somehow contribute to the rapprochement of educational and scientific programs Russia and the world. He created, within the framework of the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League (OPPL), an Interregional Department of NLP consulting, coaching, psychology and psychotherapy, sincerely (but apparently unsuccessfully) hoping to unite the heterogeneous and diverse actions of “gentlemen enelpers”, and at the same time somewhat increase the level of qualifications and demand designated community. I became a member (perhaps in vain) of many public organizations, including (if I’m not mistaken) the “Drug-Free Russia” movement and the Guild of Automotive Journalists. I wrote a bunch (about two dozen) of books on psychology and neurolinguistic programming, and not only did not stop, but on the contrary, I began to write them with redoubled zeal.

Now lives happily in own home in the near Moscow region, from where he travels to Moscow not often and not willingly. He conducts a lot of trainings in the Moscow region and in Rostov-on-Don, and plans to significantly expand this geography. He still works incredibly hard, but with even more pleasure.

He has been happily married for a long time, raising his beloved daughter, and among other household members, a dog and a cat. He is no longer young, but still far from being the same as before, but he is engaged in martial arts and the “iron game”. Moderately but confidently, he practices esotericism, qigong, meditation and astral flying. And, most importantly, he is going to do a lot more in this earthly life...

Official data

Psychologist, psychotherapist, management consultant, political consultant.

Doctor of Psychological Sciences, Professor, Academician of IIA.

PhD, GrPhD, Full professor.

Psychotherapist of the World and European Register, certified NLP Master Trainer and specialist in Ericksonian hypnotherapy.

Full member of the Russian Psychological Society and the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League (OPPL).

President of the interregional department of neurolinguistic programming: NLP consulting, coaching, psychology and psychotherapy of OPPL; Community Certified Counselor; official teacher and supervisor of international class OPPL practice.

General Director of NLP Technologies Center LLC; Vice President of the Social Security Agency, Vice President of WUDSES.